I love Dale Carnegie’s book, How To Win Friends And Influence People.  I have it on CD and listen to it every now and then when I’m making my 3 hour round trip commute to work.  (As an aside, this commute is but another reason I am building a network marketing business, so I can stop this insane drive time.  The only commute I want to have is from my kitchen to my home office.)  I really enjoy this audiobook, not only because it is so well done (I have the version read by Andrew MacMillan), but also because Carnegie writes things about our relationships with other people that seem so commonsensical but not necessarily well known.

One of the recommendations that Carnegie makes is to be a good listener and to encourage others to talk about themselves.  When you talk in terms of the other person’s interests, you are showing them respect and they, in turn, not only get a sense of importance, but also an appreciation of you and your consideration.  Of course, your interest in them should be sincere and genuine, otherwise they will be offended – and rightfully so!

How many times do we ask someone a question, only to start thinking about the next thing we’re going to say before even taking the time to listen to what they have to say?  You might not be guilty of this, but unfortunately, I have at times.  If we’re so interested in being heard and expressing ourselves, doesn’t it make sense that the other person feels the same way?  I have found that when I slow down, take a genuine interest in the other person and actively listen to what they have to say, we both feel good.  In addition, taking the time to listen to someone else will give you the opportunity to help them solve any problems they might have.

The more interest you show in what other people have to say, the more interested you will become in what they have to say.  We can learn so much, and help others feel better about themselves, if we just take the time to listen.

– Mark

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